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Mar. 6th, 2005 @ 12:54 pm Nursing to sleep
I am starting college in September and I recently started sending my 13 month old to the babysitters once a week for a few hours to get her used to it. I always take her first thing in the morning so the babysitter won't have to worry about meals or naps since my daughter is an extremely fussy eater and often refuses to go to sleep. When she is with me she will only go to sleep if I let her nurse until she falls asleep. When she is with my mom she will fall asleep on her shoulder but usually wakes up and starts screaming the second she is laid down. I can hardly ask the babysitter to hold her for an hour while she has a nap, so how do I get my daughter to go to sleep on her own?
It is my fault for letting her do it all this time, but it was working for us up until this point. I feel like it's too late, I don't know how to handle it.
Starting in September she is going to be at Daycare all day while I am in school and she is going to have to learn how to nap there, but I would feel really bad leaving it to the day care staff to deal with. Has anyone ever had this problem before? Any advice you have would be appreciated.
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Feb. 25th, 2005 @ 04:58 pm (no subject)
Name: Rebecca
Age: 20
Location: California
School: Sonoma State University
Married, Engaged, Parenting, and/or Pregnant? A proud parent and happily engaged. Jason is 3 months old, and quite the little guy. He brightens our life each and everyday.
Best and worst traits of the people you live with: Its not easy being a full-time mom (I go back to school in August) and a girl-friend. Plus trying to keep up with my academia so when I go back, I'm not lost.
Living arrangement: 1 bedroom apartment, 3 people
The best part of living the life that you have chosen: Getting to watch Jason grow and change, being the center of his universe, and having all the support in the world from my family, my man, and my in-laws
How did you find this community? general search
What do you think of the idea behind it? It's pretty cool, I have other friends who are young parents but they live in my hometown and not here, so I don't get to talk to them nearly enough.
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Feb. 14th, 2005 @ 04:20 pm Argh
I just got a letter from the college I applied to. I was accepted. I was excited to get an answer back, but now that I have I'm terrified. It seems so much more real now. I have never been away from Hannah for more than a few hours before and now I will have to put her in day care every day. I feel really guilty about having to do this. She is going to hate it at first. No one looks after her but me and she doesn't know anything else. I am going to phase her into it slowly and I know she will be fine, but I can't seem to get over this guilty, frightened feeling. I can't stay at home with her forever right? So why do I feel like a terrible parent for having to put her in day care?

Has anyone else gone through this? How did you get over it?
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Jan. 24th, 2005 @ 12:53 am (no subject)
So of COURSE my final semester isn't starting out smoothly... Damnit.

I registered for classes on the 15th (because I'd been in the hospital with a kidney infection the week of pre-registration last fall) and then found out that one class I was in was going to be 6 hours long (a day!) and quite frankly after baby comes that just isn't going to work at all. So I dropped it. And went to sign up at the community college here, because they have an shared degree program with my school.
I signed up for two classes there, so I'll be in in 5 total... or I WOULD be... except I checked my registration online tonight because I needed the time and room for my class tomorrow and they're UNREGISTERED me. AFTER I paid them for my credits! I'm soooo not happy, if I don't get to graduate I'm going to FREAK OUT.
So tomorrow at 8am before my prenatal appointment I have to haul my pregnant butt over to the college and see what the heck is going on with all of this, because seriously, it's not even cool.

And here I was thinking I was going to have an easy semester. lol. Okay Mandi, dream on girl.

I hope everyone else's semesters are off to a far better start!
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Jan. 22nd, 2005 @ 11:22 pm awesome teacher
My professor is awesome. I told her about my situation with Zoe, and she is being incredibly understanding. She also told me to not stress myself out too much but that it was important for me to stay in school. She told me that she was going to talk to the dean of students about my situation to see if there are any resources for them to help me out.

I am impressed. I guess there are understanding professors out there.
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Jan. 22nd, 2005 @ 10:48 pm (no subject)
As stated in previous entries. Zoe has been diagnosed with delayed visual maturation with suspected cortical visual imparment. Which means in english that there is a communication problem between her brain and her eyes. She was seen by a team from Babies Can't Wait which was a group containing a doctor, nurse, occupational therapist, and social worker. They have reccomended that she have occupational therapy twice a month for 60 minutes each session for the next 6 months. They also are going to enroll her in the BEGIN program. They teach parents developmental activities to help their vision impaired child progress. Also, she will be treated by GA PINES which is a statewide early intervention program, begun in 1980, for families of children birth to five years of age with a diagnosed hearing impairment and/or a visual impairment. Both of these groups will make either weekly or bi weekly visits to our home or Zoe and I will be going to their centers.

In addition to all of this, they will be doing an infant swallow study to make sure that she is feeding correctly and that when she feeds that milk is not going into her lungs. They are doing this because they are concerned about the fact that Zoe chokes and gags when she eats and want to make sure she does not get anything in her lungs and develop something horrible like phenomia. If she does have problems with the swallow study, then she will also have a speech/feeding therapist added to the group of people treating her.

Additionally, she is going to be seeing a neurologist in the coming weeks as well. This is partially for the CVI and partially because they are concerned about some muscle twiching she does. Babies Can't Wait has also reccomended that I apply for disability for Zoe due to the nature of what is going on with her.

It just all seems so unreal how many people are involved with her care and all the stuff that is being done.

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Jan. 15th, 2005 @ 10:05 pm Zoe Update
The official diagnosis is 2 fold from the pediatric opthamologist.

1.) Delayed Visual Maturation


2.) Cogenital Blocked Tear Duct


Word from the pediatric opthamologist is that #2 should resolve itself by the next 3 months. If it does't, it will require a simple surgical procedure to unplug it and stick a little tube there. Very simple and common procedure.

#1 is a bit of a different story. She should start to improve within the next three months. However, if she does not they will have to do an extensive examination of her that requires anesthesia and we will also have to consult with a neurologist.

So, basically, we are waiting and seeing (no pun intended) for the next 3 months. Hopefully she should be alright.

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Jan. 7th, 2005 @ 11:44 pm What Zoe has to say


Updated Zoe photos.

And yes, that is her middle finger. Is it wrong to find that hilariously cute?
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Jan. 5th, 2005 @ 11:02 pm Zoe Update -- Worried
The occupational therapist came by today to evaluate Zoe.


The word from the therapist is that her adjusted age is 3-4 weeks.

They did a really complete evaluation on her and everything seems fine. They did a hearing, muscle, cognitive, and vision test. How they were able to ascess this on a baby so young, I do not know.

They are concerned about her vision. She completely flunked the test. When they shined the light in her eyes, her pupils did not even dialate and she did not blink. She does not respond when you put things infront of her eyes. The therapist think she has Retinopathy of Prematurity stage 3 http://www.nei.nih.gov/health/rop/index.asp or that she could be partially blind.

This scares me.
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Jan. 4th, 2005 @ 07:58 pm Guess what!
I had my ultrasound today- and it's a BOY!

Lil' Jose Jr. is doing fine. The picture quality sucks because I had to take a picture of a picture (no scanner, just digi camera). I'm so excited!

cross posted everywhere!
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